Four Things That May Be Holding You Back From Success

ID-100240856  Have you ever wondered if you are sabotaging your own success?

There is much talk about the top 2% of successful entrepreneurs. I believe many of the top 2% are in the right place, the right time and in the right position when their success comes.

I think this because someone else can take the exact same formula a successful entrepreneur used (there are plenty of their e-Books out there) and perform the exact same steps that person took and fail miserably.    I know…I’ve done it. And I wondered many times ‘why’?

If the formulas work, then what is holding us back to that success? We have to understand it, rationalize it and fix it so we can be successful too. Here are some of the things I think hold us back based on my own personal experiences.  Maybe you’ve experienced these things too.


Are You Afraid of Success?

Image by Stuart Miles
Image by Stuart Miles

Sometimes I wonder if I’m afraid of success? I feel this way at times when I’m tired of working so hard. I wonder if when I get to that success, how much harder will I need to work? Will it get better or busier?

In order to maintain, we’ve got to keep it going. We work hard to spend more time with our families, to not have to worry about money, to go on vacation or whatever our goals are, but then don’t we have to work just as hard to maintain it? Sometimes I feel that success requires even more work and when I think about it, it makes me afraid.

For instance, as a blogger, blogging requires a lot of time, energy, brain power, and consistency to completely be successful and few of us make a minimum amount to financially sustain us. Fear of success can hold you back if you worry about how hard it’s going to be when you succeed.

What To Do:   Take a course on Motivation, Success. Practice Positive Thinking. Get a Life Coach. Get an Accountability Partner. Talk it out with a friend.  Anything that can help you recognize your fear and establish steps to correct it. Fear is all in our mind and we can control it and move on with the right help.

Do We Have The Time?

Many of us don’t reach the high level success of some of the major internet marketer players or major successful bloggers because we may not have the time.

We may work a regular 9 to 5. We may have small children and families to care for. We may have very little time to devote to our
business so we may get a small return. We may not have enough money to hire someone to ghost write for us.

Sometimes, with all of the ‘life’ stuff we get burnt out and run out of motivation. What I’ve seen is that we run out of motivation ’cause all the ‘life’ stuff gets in the way and we get burnt out.

I know about this one too. Seems like there’s so much to do and not enough time and energy to do it all in.

What To Do: Establish a schedule and stick to it. If you can’t work 5 days a week, find the right time for you. I recently did a guest posts for Adrienne Smith called Effective Consistency. It will help you understand what needs to be done to establish a pattern of regular consistency to help us with time management.

Lack of Confidence in Yourself.

Just recently I visited a doctor, actually it was an appointment for myself. I had earlier visited his website and saw that he was receiving no traffic to his website and we discussed it.

Long story short, I gave him a synopsis of what he should do, Twitter, Blogging, Promoting, etc. and I presented that I could teach him how to do
it or do it for him. He gave me the job and asked for the quote by email.

I haven’t sent it to him yet! Why? Well I had to figure that out and eventually I put it down to lack of confidence in myself. Could I help him get his Twitter account going? Did I have enough time to write additional posts and do his blogging for his business? Could I build up his following on Facebook and get him out in social media?

Well, the answer was Yes, I could do all that, but what if I didn’t succeed? I asked myself that question over and over again. Here I presented a
proposal which was accepted, then I was afraid to move on it.

What To Do:

Nothing to do but get over it. After about 3 months of inactivity, I finally contacted him and started working for him slowly, but it was really hard to get past my own fear of success. Wow! Enlightening to me. I wonder how many others of us have the same problem?

How to get over it? Just do it! It will succeed or fail. If it succeeds then you get paid and referrals AND you find the confidence in yourself to do it again, and again. You gain more confidence with each job.

Get help if you need it. Talk to a coach, a mentor, a psychologist or spiritualist. Anyone who can help you overcome that fear within us.

Resisting New Technology or Proven Methods of Success

Many of us resist new methods or new tools as we are uncomfortable with the ‘new’ and impatient with the necessary learning curve required to make it work.

Some things are simple, but most take some level of expertise in order to be successful.

I resist making videos and there are statistics that note that we get more views and interaction on our blogs if we use videos.

My problem is every time I start talking, I forget everything I was going to say, I don’t like the way I look on a video, I have to learn the new video software…anything; any excuse I can use to ‘not’ do the video. I know I’ve got to get over that.

Bottom line here is we have to stay current with the latest trends, technologies, social networks and other tools that can help us be successful.

What To Do:   Take the time to learn a few technologies at a time. Don’t overstress in that we have to learn everything right away. Right, now I’m working on learning a new video tool.

It seems easier than others. I’m taking it slow and each night learning a little more about it. I’m also working on my patience so I don’t get
frustrated with the tool before I become proficient at it. I practice, practice, practice and am slowing getting it.

Evaluate what is keeping you from learning a new tool or resisting working on it and get someone to help you in those areas.

Final Thoughts

So these are four things that may be holding you back as well. Admittance is half the battle, then we can begin the corrections and the work required to get to our success?

Have you asked yourself this question before? What is holding you back from success? Have you evaluated your success and if there is anything that you can do better? Have you recognized any of these things for yourself? Would love to hear your experiences.
Much love and inspiration to all.



  1. says

    Hi Barbara,

    The points you have mentioned above can relate with every single blogger, entrepreneur and else.

    As you said fear from success, I always think as how much hard work I have to do? Is there any shortcut for success?

    But you know working hard and patience are the only keys for success.

    Sometimes I get demoralized but after sometime I try hard to make my self-confidence.

    Thanks for your guide.:)

    Enjoy your weekend.:)

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    • says

      Hi Ravi,

      You’re right. Building our own self-confidence is the key to success. I’m also looking for a short cut to success. My shortcut is basically blogging and sharing info that I’ve learned along my long, lonely journey to blogging.

      You have a great week-end too.

  2. says

    Hi Barbara,

    These Four things can keep one back from success. Fear of Success may sound silly, but it is something that we all have to dig deep inside and ask ourselves. Years ago, I did this and realized I had my job mentality hat on. It took a while, but I changed hats!

    I loved the story you shared about your doctor. You cannot procrastinate when things come up like this. You just have to do it! Stop everything, and work on it. I know I have procrastinated on the same topic until I realized that the store owner I was dealing with had no clue what so ever about anything. When I jumped on it (for a fee) they were so happy.

    Sometimes we don’t realize how much we know and take for granted that everyone knows about it. But, coming to the realization that we are a step ahead of someone else we can put together a contract and do it for them…

    When you talk about your resistance of making videos, I just had to laugh because I had the same thing going on when I first started. I kept looking at myself thinking such crazy things like my hair doesn’t look good, I gotta change my lipstick….But I joined a 30 day video challenge and it changed me. No I just hop on and talk freely.

    Great post my hit four topics that lots of people will resist. We need to acknowledge it so we can get over our fears and get t the road of success.

    donna merrill recently posted…Stick To Your Niche?My Profile

    • says

      Hey Donna,

      Thanks for the support. I definitely need the inspiration. I have to change my ‘hat’ because I still do have that fear of success only because I don’t want to fail. But the nice thin is you saying ‘we are ahead of them.’ Uhmmm. Never thought of it before like that! Cool and thanks. That helps! 🙂

      Yeah and that video thing still gets me. Still working on that now that I’ve got some great software! What’s a 30 day video challenge? I need info on that so I can get with the program and change my fear of the dreaded ‘video!’ 🙂

      Thanks. I hope mentioning my fears will help others who are also resisting success. And thanks for the tips. I plan to work on them for myself and ready your comment again to keep me motivated.

      Thanks so much,

  3. says

    Hi Barbara,

    Just as Donna and Ravi said, I think everybody can relate to the points you mentioned. Talk about fear of success. I have done that many many times and in fact I might still be doing it at some level I believe.

    I remember using a solid client (prospective one) simply because I wasn’t confident about my own inability to deliver. She asked if I could help her in her online marketing efforts including her website set up, social media marketing, content writing and other campaigns. I had never done a project like that before and therefore I backed off. That cost me a few hundred dollars a month for several years (probably).

    These are some great points and I appreciate you for sharing these with a personal touch.


    • says

      Hi Kumar,

      I understand completely. I think many of us don’t really ‘recognize’ fear of success and when we do, we really do regret it as you did and as I have. It’s a part of the learning curve, as well as, as the gaining confidence in ‘what we know.’ I know you are awesome and can’t imagine you feeling you couldn’t do anything. 🙂

      Thanks for sharing your story with me. It lets me know I’m not alone.

      God bless and have a good week.

  4. says

    Hi Barbara,

    I think I have fell victim to a couple of these things that you have listed in this wonderful post! Especially the “fear of success”…

    When I was younger, I was “fairly” successful at my job selling TVs at the local Best Buy. However in a situation like that, I was happy because I got more responsibility (and a bigger paycheck) but there was a Fortune 500 company that was already established to back me up.

    When I decided to take the plunge into making a living online, I saw how much work it was. I thought of big name marketers and the successful people in the industry and I was seeing them EVERYWHERE! They were doing webinars one day, talking to their mastermind groups the next day, flying here or there for some seminar, while still releasing products or writing blog posts.

    I was terrified and thought to myself, “when I have that level of success, how will I ever deal with it?!?” I believe that it has sabotaged my efforts because when the day comes, I will not know how to handle it. I think that success can be just as big as failure from holding someone back.

    You did a great service by laying out these 4 reasons that could possibly be holding people back from success, and even better gave a solution that can be tried!

    Thank you for sharing this with everyone

    All the best,
    Jeff Sollee

  5. says

    Four totally excellent points Barbara!

    And yes, I can definitely relate! But I also have to say, congratulations
    on reaching out and securing potential long term business from that professional niche!

    And there is absolutely no way you should be doubting your ability to provide
    an extremely valuable service!

    You’ve got a ton of knowledge, skill and ability! And you definitely know more about the subject than 99% of those extremely skilled professionals!

    They’re experts at what they do, not what you/we do!

    You’re the expert! The fact that you were able to notice and point out their lack of targeted traffic and how to get more of it, bares witness to the fact!

    I think it’s so awesome that you even reached out to them initially! If nothing else, use them to get traction in their niche!

    Because they are probably not the only professional, that has no real clue about how to generate highly targeted traffic to their blog and or website etc.

    Be sure you get that all important testimonial from them and use them as your case study client!

    In fact I hope you seriously consider setting up a service where they (and other professionals) pay you a monthly fee and you service four or five of them and maybe (after you) really get your feet wet and they pay you a monthly subscription fee of anywhere from $500 to $1,000 per month, per client!

    That is so cool Barbara! You’ve definitely got the skills! I know I’ve learned plenty from you so far, just by studying your excellent blog post! So keep going! And you dare sell yourself short any longer!

    Have a great weekend! And I definitely want to hear (hopefully) in the not so distant future, how you’re building this potential revenue stream!
    Mark recently posted…Three Extremely Critical Business Lessons Jogging During A Severe Rainstorm Taught Me!My Profile

  6. says

    Hey Barbara,

    Ah, we’ve talked about this before… I don’t think it’s that I’m scared of success, I actually welcome it. I think the issue is what I put out there in order to reach that place will be good enough.

    I can understand what you’re saying about the example of the doctor. Of course that’s not an area I would want to take on and I believe the advice I’ve given all of my clients up to this point has been good and those that have taken it have seen results. I think it’s the issue of possibly letting people down. I think I’ve put way too much pressure on myself but it’s because of how so many people seem to be counting on me. As a nurturer I think that’s just a normal reaction for the majority of us.

    Your advice of “what to do” about it is spot on. I will get past it because this place where I’m hanging is not where I want to be. We all have fears, we all have doubts, I think that’s just part of the process. The ones that are meant to do this will get through it and like you said, I’ve been able to do it with the advice and help from my friends.

    Thanks for sharing this Barbara and we are not alone. 😉

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    • says

      Hi Adrienne,

      Sorry for the delay. You know it’s been a pretty crazy two weeks so I know you’ll forgive me for not getting back to you on comments.

      In regards to your comments. I understand completely. Fear that it will be a good enough is another great point and there is a definite difference between that and fear of success. I have to say I didn’t think of this but when you mention this point, it resonates with me. It is another reason that causes me to hesitate on creating a new products, a new post…all of the above.

      Yes, we have talked about this and I guess as long as we keep it in the forefront of our thoughts, we will get through it. That’s the only way really. Keeping it in the mind and moving forward. It’s the only way. Glad to know I’m not the only one. 🙂

      Hope everything else is well. We’ll talk soon.
      God bless,
      Barbara Charles recently posted…Four Things That May Be Holding You Back From SuccessMy Profile

  7. says

    Yes Barbara,
    I agree with you on these 4, fear mostly is the number one enemy of success any time, anywhere and any day. Fear is a killer.

  8. says

    Hi Barbara,

    How did I miss this site? You have such great info here.

    This post in particular hits home for a lot of folks. These are barriers that can be hard to break out of. The confidence barrier has been a hard one for me but I can tell you that your advice works, ‘Just do it’. Don’t even think about it – just do it.

    You can’t see results unless you DO something. When the recognition happens or the money rolls in, that will be the boost you need and from then on your confidence just builds. At least that’s been my experience.

    Thanks Barbara. Great post. I think others will find some real benefit here.

    Liz McGee recently posted…SEO Content Writing Tips For The SEO ChallengedMy Profile

    • says

      Hi Liz,

      Thanks for visiting again. I truly appreciate that and am glad you have found something helpful. You are definitely right. Only when we see results will we get that needed boost. When I first went into a network marketing company some 8-9 years ago (my first), I remember that first $100 check which I didn’t cash for weeks. I carried it around with me because it meant that ‘it’ worked and it was a boost for me that kept me going. Only $100 but it showed that it worked and what better incentive of money when you really didn’t know what to expect. We can let fear hold us back or anything else hold us back.

      God bless.

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