I believe many things about life that most people might think philosophical.
I believe that everyone that comes into your life comes for a reason.
I believe there’s a time and a season for everything and change is inevitable, no matter what the result, good or bad or pain involved.
I was thinking today about why so many people have come and gone in my life and each time I have to fall back on the above beliefs.
I discovered this years ago through hard lessons and pain. Maybe that’s when why and what we are here for is revealed to us.
It’s a time when we’re supposed to understand a lesson or situation and learn from it in some way, shape or other. For good or bad, certain people have entered your life and made an impact.
I know many people contemplate this question ‘why are we here?’, especially as we go through the trials and tribulations of life and business. Many people never know.
But I know. I know I am I am here to serve others and I’ve found that out the hard way, through life’s trials and lessons.
Serving Others In Life
One life lesson I experienced involved a person whom I cared about deeply in our relationship. When we met he was going through an emotional life experience hinself. As a police officer, he was involved in a shoot-out and faced with a life and death situation – his or the criminal – kill or be killed!
Probably one of the most horrifying experiences a person would have to go through. Face to face – me or him! He came into my life at this time and he was suffering, obviously because he was alive and well…you know…the other person was not.
He was suffering and wondering why he had to take a life. I used to wonder why he was a police officer because he was such a gentle spirit and soul. I remember deep and philosophical talks about the *why* of such a situation.
In one conversation, words came to me, unbidden. Words along the lines of ‘you don’t know why God put you here or why it went down the way it went down.’ Maybe, if this dangerous criminal had survived, he could have been a mass murderer, killed women and children, been a terrorist – who knows but God. We just don’t know.
But my words were “God puts law enforcement on this earth to protect the innocent and he gives them spirits like yours to ensure that we are protected and that you yourself do not become criminal-like minded with such power in your hands.”
This seemed to comfort him in our time together and we had many such conversations. That was over 12+ years ago.
Four years after this conversation we went our separate ways and it devastated me. I didn’t understand why I had to suffer through that loss. It was an emotionally crippling time for me and I didn’t think I’d survive it. Yes, maybe over-dramatic, but that’s how I felt.
Of course, we all get through as I did and one day, years later, I started thinking ‘why did I have to go through that pain?’
The answer came back “It was not about you.” I immediately knew what that meant. That time I spent with him was to boost him up, to get him past his pain so that he could continue with what he needed to do in this life; in his important role in life.
It was about comforting another person, lending him strength and experience to get him through. I learned it was not about me!
Wow! What a life changing revelation! A sense of peace came over me as I accepted that statement as truth and understood what a scary and awesome responsibility that was.
Seem unfair? Yeah, I guess, but I do not argue with God’s plan. This was the beginning of my learning to serve. See many people think it’s about ‘serving’ in church. I think it’s about serving people in life!
I can relay this to another situation as well. Friends that have come and gone where there are painful break-us. A sister-friend who now goes on through her life as if our past 17 years of sisterhood, sharing and love didn’t mean a thing. It makes me incredibly sad.
However, when I look back, I now know it was a similar situation. When we met she was going through a difficult time in her life. We developed into fast friends, family-like. Her walking away without an explanation was like a betrayal that hurt to the core (still does), but I know now, if not then, that it was never about me. It was about getting her through.
Now I recognize these situations for what they are. It’s about me being there to serve, learning how to be a better person and growing into a complete and understanding being.
A selfish way of thinking would be ‘when do I get mine?’ What do I get out of it? I don’t know…maybe soon…maybe never. But what’s important is that we do serve others and help others to learn, to grow, and to experience life better.
I think we always have to get out of the ‘what about me mode-of-life.’ We have to look for deeper meanings on why we go through bad times.
The Bad News
The bad news is it can be painful and hard for us during that time. The bad news is we may not always know when we’re going through a *life lesson experience.*
The Good News
The good news is when you ask the question why – the answer will come back. For me, it was always ‘to serve and accept’ and in serving understanding that life, pain and experiences are not always about me, even though I feel I’m going through it at the time.
The good news is I’ve always learned, become a better person and enhanced my life. Always good things, peace and fortune have come to me because I have accepted that in my learning, I can continue to give and serve others.
Serving Others In Business
So what’s this have to do with business. In learning to serve, I have come to Internet Marketing and blogging. Millions of people are online looking for help to make money, to grow their business, to change their lives for the better.
My life experiences and empathy helps me to easily identify their needs, be sympathetic to them, and to serve by supplying that need. Empathy is necessary in business and you will be successful if you use this unique gift to help others.
Have you ever wondered why you are here? How have you gone about finding your purpose in life? Have your life experiences taught you your purpose in life? If you feel comfortable, please share what you think your purpose is here on earth? Have you found it yet? Would love to hear so we can all grow.