Change Is Inevitable -Growth Is Optional – Adjusting To Life Changes

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Photo by Stuart Miles

Well, I finally had to do it.  Had to go back to that kind of job that we entrepreneurs hate…a 9 to 5!  However, it’s not 9 to 5.

It’s the typical ‘put in at least 10-12 hours  a day working…50 or 60 hour week’!’  What a pain in the royal Pa-tootie!  Shoot!  I’m too old to work this hard!

It feels like living in a time warp when you work 50-60 hours a week.  My daughter said tonight ‘tomorrow is Thursday.’

I said ‘No, it’s not…it’s Tuesday.  She said ‘No mommie, it’s Wednesday’ and I thought OMG –

I‘ve been working so hard I don’t even know what day it is.  WTH!

Anyway, I always thought that as I got older, things would get easier.  I’d work smarter and maybe a little less by being an entrepreneur.

But things sometimes force us to get into the ‘work force’ and work like a broke azz dog (old saying for all you younger generation folks!)

So here I am leaving the house in the dark (about 6:30 a.m), traveling 1 hour to get to work, arriving (if there is no traffic) at around 7:30 a.m., working like a work horse, pretty much no lunch, then leaving somewhere around 7 or 7:30 to travel another hour to get home.

The other day I realized I was out of the house in work mode for 14 hours.

Since there are only 24 hours in a day, 8 are meant for sleep, that now leaves 2 hours to eat, pet my animals, hug my kids and go to bed!  There’s not much time for anything else!

Now how do I maintain my entrepreneurship, my business, my blogging and all the other things that I spent hours doing prior to this job?  My answer:  Relax, re-adjust, re-schedule!


When life changes gets you down and things get in the your way of your goals, dreams and aspirations, take a deep breath and breathe!

Sometimes as entrepreneurs it is required that we work the 9 to 5.  As a matter of fact, most internet entrepreneurs work a regular job or are raising families, going to school or just getting on in life.

Any of these things can take you away from your true passion of being an entrepreneur, but a girl’s gotta eat right?

Remember just recently I shared an infographic that talks about 81% of the population online make less than $100.  So the long and short of that is…many people work full-time while pursuing their entrepreneur dreams!


What to do?  Go with it.  What else are you going to do?    If you relax and don’t stress and get a handle on how to arrange things, life changes can be a little easier.

You have to be in the right mindset.   Those of us who are entrepreneurs already have one mindset.  A true entrepreneurial mindset means we never give up, no matter what life obstacles (including working daily) are thrown in our way.

An entrepreneur mindset allows us to continue, work, re-adjust our schedule and our lives to get to your ultimate success, whatever your goals are.

Photo by By David Castillo Dominici,
Photo by By David Castillo Dominici,

There is a saying I like – ‘Change is Inevitable!  Growth is optional!’

If change is inevitable, we’d better learn to adjust because life changes will get in our way.

Learning to easily accept and re-adjust when we’re thrown a curve ball keeps you sane.


This is one of the most important factor…at least for me!   I’ve tried to find solutions to this ridiculous amount of time I’m working.  Here are a few suggestions that are working for me.

Re-schedule work load so that you have some ‘light’ days.

Get organized and be efficient in how you handle your day to day activities.

Allow for your entrepreneur or Internet marketing work.  I’m writing a post just before bed, but I started the post yesterday.  It may take 15 minutes here or 20 minutes tomorrow, but I’ll get my blog done.

Re-scheduling could be work-related or home and personal-related.  Look at your daily activities and see what can be re-scheduled to a better or another time.

Get someone else to do it.  At home or at work.  Can someone help you get through your day?  At home for me – this is a biggie. Can my oldest daughter do the grocery shopping and pick up her sister at school?  Yes, she can.   Is there a resource at work that can help you with the workload?  Talk to your supervisor to adjust the schedule, lighten the load or get your help.  (I’ve done all three!)   For your blog, outsource some of your writing.  You can always take 15-20 minutes to re-write or modify as needed.

See if you can work from home for a few days a week.   Actually I discussed this with my boss this morning!  “Answer:  Yes!  We can work that out.”   You won’t know if you don’t ask! Smile

Entrepreneurship Doesn’t Always Pay The Bills

Something we learn the hard way many times.  It’s take a lot of commitment to work from home or work as an entrepreneur.  It takes a phenomenal person to work a 9 to 5 and work as an entrepreneur on the side.  It takes great commitment and dedicated perseverance to do both.

Final Thoughts

So I’m still adjusting.  I can’t say how long I’ll be at this job because I’m not one to stay in a position where I’m trading time for money so who knows…I’m not afraid to switch ‘jobs’ while I work at my own business.   As I mentioned, I’ m too old to be working this hard! 😉

Over To You

So how do you feel about working the 9 to 5 while you pursue your dream of being an entrepreneur?   If you are working a 9 to 5 or are raising a family or any of the other things we have to do daily to live our lives, what tips do you have that might help us get through?   Do tell. Would love to hear your suggestions!

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  1. says

    Hey Barbara,

    I truly admire everyone out there who is trying to create a better life for themselves all while holding down a full-time job and tending to their families. I know when I would work an 8 to 5 job I would come home and I just didn’t want to do anything. Even when you don’t have to travel a long way to get home a lot of times you’re just mentally exhausted. Just like yesterday I was just in a funk. My sinuses have been bothering me and it’s really hard to stay focused when you don’t feel good. You can’t get much done or if you do you’ll have to more then likely go back and do it again.

    I know that time isn’t always on everyone’s side which is why I admire you girl. You are doing it all and I know this new job is kicking your ass. That’s absurd to have to drive that far to begin with but I understand why you have to. On top of that working that many hours and it’s almost 9:00 before you even get home. I don’t know how you function but my hats off to you.

    Your suggestions are wonderful and even though I work at home I use some of those myself. I’ve been behind since the holidays because I did take some time away from the computer and all that does is set me back but I’m not going to stress over it. I’ll get it done when I get it done.

    Thanks for sharing this and hope we’ll see you tonight. Have a good rest of your week okay.

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    • says

      Hey Adrienne,

      Thanks for the support. I truly don’t know how long I’ll be able to do this. I got home at 8 p.m. tonight! Left at 8 (decided to just take it easy in the a.m) and this job truly is kicking my butt!

      I’ll have to see what happens in the next couple of weeks, but for sure I’ve got to do something. The drive is the worse part.

      I’m sorry you haven’t been feeling well. I have allergies too and it’s just that time of year.

      I’m hoping some of my coping strategies help others. You know it’s the way to go because you use them too. If not, we’d go crazy.
      I expect that we fall behind during the holidays. So much to do…so little time to do it in.

      So sorry we missed tonight. Miss you guys (another de-stressor!). You have a good week-end and we’ll chat next week.
      Take care,

  2. says

    Hi Barbara, wow, I can sure relate. It’s almost 8 pm and I’m still typing away here 🙂 I try to end around this time since I started at 3 a.m. in the same spot but then went to my day job. My whole life is in adjustment mode now The company I work went up for sale yesterday, my husband and I are seperating, moving next week – so all around I have changes.
    I keep telling myself to take deep breaths, try to get in a walk or go to gym, and friends are key for me. I have so many wonderful friends that I am thankful for and I make time to stay connected. I think if we love what we do it sure helps. If we didn’t love blogging and all the stuff we do with it we would not continue to do so year after year.
    It goes for most jobs and businesses, you really have to love what you do!
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    • says

      Hi Lisa,

      I feel your pain lady friend. I got home at 8. It’s almost 10 p.m. now and I’m still typing trying to get all my comments in and return comments to others! Boy, am I tired.

      I’m sorry that you’re in that adjustment period. I think it’s an ever revolving cycle. If it’s not one thing, it’s definitely another. I’m been there in a number of things…family changes, moving…the whole nine yards.

      You’re doing the right thing. Keep busy, stay with your friends, and stay more busy! 🙂 Find a stress reliever. If you’ve been to my wall on FB you know I dance. It’s how I release stress, even during the hard times. And I mean, I dance HARD! lol!

      Blogging is another stress reliever for sure. And it’s all about loving it, otherwise it would be an issue. But we have to make sure that blogging does not become an issue because it is time consuming and can stress us out trying to get our posts out.

      Make sure you take care of you first.

      I’m glad we’ve connected. If you ever want to chat, holla back, send me an email. I support you and will gladly just chat with ya to de-stess.
      Let me know,
      Be well and take care,

  3. says

    Hi Barbara,

    I would have to say for someone who’s working 9-5 has to be really focused on being able to work the business around their normal working hours. Even if it means they have to wake up two hours earlier than they normally do to work on their business. On the same token, work on the business after work, and on weekends. Any available free time, they have to decide and commit. It really boils down to how serious they are about the business and how bad they want success. Awesome post Barbara!
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    • says

      Hi Nate,

      Thanks Nate! I’d say you are 100% correct. Your commitment must be 150% when you want to be success *and* work a full time job. It depends on the person. I work late at nights, sometimes until 1 or 2 and get up early. It’s the only way I can keep up. Other’s may decided to use after work, week-ends etc. I do that as well. Pretty much almost every available waking minute is used in working the business and if not, I’m dancing. My dancing allows me to de-stress and keep my sanity. You have to be able to relax one or two minutes of the day! 🙂

      Have a great week-end,
      Barbara Charles recently posted…Change Is Inevitable -Growth Is Optional – Adjusting To Life ChangesMy Profile

  4. says

    Hi Barbara,

    As someone who has been working from home for the last 6 years I still do over 60 hours a week at the computer. I could probably make more money if I did go back into the work place and work for someone else. I still have a “job” I just work for myself. Once you truly have a successful business and become an entrepreneur you business should run without you. The problem being if you get to this stage you never stop working because you enjoy what you do.

    You can feel a bit isolated working from home on your own, this is why I like to join forums and Facebook groups and chat on blogs etc.

    And if I want a day off I just ask the boss, he normally says yes!


  5. says

    Hi Barbara

    Wow the commute itself would cause me to fall asleep at the wheel. When I was working it consisted of some physical work, so I was dog tired when I got home. Not to mention the stress caused by a bad manager and employee, that made everyone’s life a living hell. Many quit and some of us got laid off, which was a blessing. But coming home and trying to write was a challenge even though my commute was fairly short.

    I admire your determination and yes I think the commitment has to be there in order for it to work. Time really has to be managed in order for everything to work. It is great that your daughter can help you out.

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    • says

      Hey Mary,

      Yep, especially when it’s 6:30 a.m. and it’s still dark! I play lots of loud music lol!

      And yep all the things you mention like bad managers, employees who don’t even say ‘good morning’ (my pet peeve since I’ve been at this place) can all wear you down on a job. Emotional stress is definitely as bad as the physical stress of commuting and working. And then we’re trying to blog on top of all that. I think I might be a little crazy just trying to do all this. 🙂

      Thanks for your support. It really is all about time management and also knowing how to take a break or stop. Many times we don’t know how to do that and we wear ourselves into the ground.

      So I’m not going to do that and I readily ask for help from my grown children. After all, I took care of all t heir issues for years lol!

      Anyway, thanks so much. Hope all is well with you. Have a great week.

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  6. says

    Hey Barbara,

    Yes working a 9-5 while growing a home business has it’s great challenges. I’ve had to make some rescheduling a couple of times because of my scheduling changing. But one thing I noticed is how focus I am and how much i want to get this thing to really work.

    Yes I can definitely feel your pain about working 60-70 hours a week and having to drive home which can take an hour. I tip my hat off to you! But you’re definitely very dedicated to being an entrepreneur. I can definitely tell. Taking 15 minutes a day to write a post says a lot! But us serious minded folks will do what we have to do in order to get to where we want to go. Hence the title of this post! Hange in there barbara!
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  7. says

    Hey Sherman,

    Thanks. It’s talking to everyone and knowing that you’re not out there doing it by yourself always helps. We’re all working in our own way to that success as an entrepreneur goal.

    I try to be focused. I try to keep a schedule. All we can do is try right? 🙂 I wish I could take 15 minutes to write a post. I don’t want to give the wrong impression. 😉 What I meant is I may take 15 minutes to write ‘some’ of the post, and finish it the next day. Or it may take me 15 or 20 minutes over a period of days. Point being, sometimes that’s what it takes.

    Thanks for saying I’m dedicated. I don’t know if I’m dedicated or just plain crazy! lol! But it is all about your ‘why’ and making a better life for my family.

    Take care for now,
    Barbara Charles recently posted…Change Is Inevitable -Growth Is Optional – Adjusting To Life ChangesMy Profile

  8. says

    Hey Barbara!! Your story sounds exactly like mine! I work 9 to 5 in addition to an hour commute on both sides of my day! It has on occasion affected my mood and work style. As you say, it’s necessary, but I really don’t like the fact that 10 hours of my life and time are being traded.

    Every day, I have to recommit to starting a business while working full-time. I’ve done some things you’ve suggested — get some help by hiring someone to clean my house on the weekends.

    In addition, each night before going to bed, I write out the goals I want to get done for the next day. I prioritize so that even if I get one done, it was the most important.

    And, I know everyone doesn’t want to do this, but I get up really early (5:15AM) so that I can leave the house early, avoid the traffic, and work on my business before going to work! (Thank goodness no one at my job is offended that I look a mess!!!!) 🙂

    Have a good one!
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    • says

      Hi Jennifer,

      Yep…I like that. We have to re-commit each day. Even now. Right now, it’s snowing here so I got to work from home, so I’ve got one computer on the right, and the work computer on the left! 🙂 Working both sides.

      Thanks for sharing some of your tips with us. I, for one, hate getting up early but I do the same. I’m up and out the house by 6:30 in order to beat the traffic. I also try to do a little social media and triberr before I get out of the house. (Doesn’t always work though)! If I miss my travel window, I wait and go in later. Hate sitting in traffic!

      I still try to look o.k. when I go in! LOL! Doesn’t always work though and I don’t care! Oh well…

      You be well and if you’re in a snow area, be careful. I’m staying in today!

  9. says


    Oh honey, I hear you. My commute isn’t as long, but my day is much like yours. I’m actually tearing up a little reading this. Sometimes I wonder where my day went! I printed out your to-do list that you accomplish daily for your website and was amazed at how well you managed your time. I might not be hitting the 100% mark, but I give it my best shot every day.

    Thank you so much for setting this blog up in 3 Re’s. Easy to remember. Relax – I’m taking a deep breath now. Readjust – I’m there. My last blog was on change. Reschedule – I’m letting others help with cooking and laundry and even dropped one of my activities that I oversaw at school.

    You have just rocked my world. I am home for a snow day and was so discouraged about writing. (including the health n fitness blog for you) that nothing was happening. I’m gonna hit it. Your dedication to you website is an inspiration to me, and others as well.

    Have an awesome week,
    Karen Hoyt
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    • says

      Awww Karen,

      We all have days where it seems we are just overwhelmed by ‘life.’ I feel that way every day now, but I know that I will not be able to do it for long. So I’ll either get a handle on it at work or leave it. I left this morning (a little later) around 8 and got home at 8 p.m. I was freaking out on how I was going to get my post done. The post is done, but I still have to post it and promote it. Sometimes it’s just about doing one little thing to make you feel like we’ve accomplished something.

      You want to know another one of my secrets. I set medium to low expectations! Not because I have low expectations, but because if I don’t expect to do a lot, then when I accomplish more I feel great! It goes back to the relax, readjust and finally re-schedule. 🙂 Glad that was helpful to you.

      Don’t be discouraged about writing. If you miss a day – relax and breathe! 🙂 It’ll be there tomorrow. Our traffic will not miss us for one day. Not to worry about a guest post for me. I’ve got a post to do there too and you know what I did. I outsourced it! It’s done and now I just need to take it and put my own spin on it. So much easier to at least have half of it done.

      You can do it! We have to stop worrying and give ourselves a break. And believe me I feel it sometimes, but I always come back down to earth. There is no life and death situation on getting our posts out 😉 No one’s going to jump in the river because we didn’t get our posts out 😉

      Please don’t be discouraged. Just take one day at a time. I’m still looking for pictures for my post. It was due to be out today. I’ll go out tomorrow. Oh well. 🙂 I re-scheduled! My bed is calling and it’s time to sleep. Blog will be there tomorrow.

      Let’s chat when we get a chance. You up for it?!
      Let me know.

  10. says

    Hi Barbara,

    An hour commute, a 9-5 job, the house, kids and animals, then your online business! Wow….that is one big adjustment girl. I commend you for doing it all.

    Seems to me that you are delegating your work that needs to be done at home…thank God for your daughter! You are aware that you need to reschedule and adjust. That’s the first step.

    I have been an entrepreneur for so long, but when I think back a few decades ago when I did the 9-5 thing, and was doing my own business restoring antiques on the weekends, it was difficult and I was in my twenties! The commute sucked! What a waste of my good time. The days at work were difficult because my passion was what I wanted to do on the weekend! So I can remember and relate a bit.

    Many of our on-line friends hold 9-5 jobs, kids and all the rest that go with it. I have my off line business that keeps me busy half the day, but I control my hours. I am so grateful for that every day!

    Keep your chin up girl, I’m sure something will work out where you don’t have to commute so much and spend so much time doing what you have to do, but rather doing what you want to do. Fingers crossed!

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    • says

      Hey Donna,

      It is kinda rough and even though I had a 9 to 5 before, I worked at least 2-3 days a week from home so I could even do a little of my own work. It also took away from my commute time. It’s been about 2 or more years that I’ve had to commute on a regular basis and work at a job for over 10 hours. It’s crazy and I don’t like it! 🙂 Honestly, don’t know how long this will last! 😉

      I didn’t realize how well I had it. The good thing is I work in pharmaceutical so we have shutdown just before Christmas until after New Years! So some small blessings! 😉

      Most of the world is going through this for real. I just need to find time to do my own business that I enjoy.

      So is your last statement ‘precognitive?’ I won’t have to work so much? 😉 WooHoo!

      My fingers are crossed too! 🙂

  11. says

    Hello Barbara,
    I’m still a student and I’m trying to start up something that I can grow as a full time business. I’ve always loved working as an entrepreneur and even though I’ve worked 9-5 only during internship, I really hate it at all.
    I like the idea of re-schedule and think it is something we all need to do in all aspects of our life. In the past, I use to pile up work cause I did not know how to schedule my time and I usually ended up doing nothing cause of time constrain. Since I learned how to re-schedule in every aspect, not only in blogging, I have become a better person.
    Thanks so much for the great write up. It really helped

  12. says

    Hi barbera; for the first few years of my business i was trying to run the website from the road. i was traveling with the family’s carnival working my kids games and editing my site on internet from a data card. Some weeks i didn’t have phone or internet. some weeks the first couple of days we wouldn’t have electricity water or sewer. some days just a good cup of coffee was a major accomplishment. so i treasure working from home and being able to do it full time thanks to financial support from my family. I am also in awe of what you are managing to accomplish while working so many long hours. You are right you never know about anything until you ask. that is why on the back of my business card there is this saying. never be afraid to ask because if you don’t ask they can’t say yes. smile You inspire me as I’m sure you are inspiring so many of your readers who are struggling with the same job verses love conflict. take care, max
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